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Here’s why companies should stop trying to be like families and more like pro sports teams

Netflix is one of the most successful internet companies in the US. Not too long ago it released a 126 page slideshow on the internet about its company culture and what it stands for.

One part of it that I found interesting was in slide 23:

“We’re a team, not a family. We’re like a pro sports team, not a kid’s recreational team”.

I though this was interesting because so many companies today strive to have their employees think of the company like a family (admittedly that’s what we used to strive for at our company before although now we try to find a balance between the two). But here’s how a company that runs like a pro-sports team will function.

1) People will be in senior positions not because they’ve been there longer but because they’re capable.

Here’s the thing, in a family your elder brother or elder sister is someone you must respect not because of whatever he/she has done to earn that respect but because he/she is your elder and has been there longer than you.

In a family, bigger responsibilities are often expected to be given to the older brother/sister not necessarily because they’re the right people for the job… but because they’ve been there longer.

A professional sports team doesn’t function like that. The best people are put in the most important positions and roles based on how capable they are and not based on any given right for being at the team (or company) longer.

Everyone works as a team and must pull their weight. Anyone who doesn’t, must be dropped quickly or the team will suffer.

2) No one person in the team thinks he is bigger than the team 

Imagine a football team where all the strikers don’t work in passing the ball to each other in order to find the best opening to score a goal. Instead whenever they get a chance (even if it’s not a very clear chance) they each try for a goal on their own because they each want the glory of being the person who scores the goal.

It doesn’t matter if all the strikers are the best strikers in the world. If they play like that in a team, then the team fails because each person then is playing not for the team’s best interest but for their own.

If any one player thinks that he is bigger than the team, no matter how talented he is, he must leave the team or the team will go into a downward spiral of everyone then playing for themselves instead of the team.

3) Weak leaders are fired quickly

Manchester United is an inspiration for me in this particular point. When Sir Alex Ferguson retired, he handed over the exact same winning team to David Moyes who then messed it up for one entire season. Same team, different leader (and different coaching staff) and he failed. He was then fired.

In a family or in some family businesses, the elder brother is the leader because he’s the elder brother. No matter how incompetent he is, short of him doing something major to mess up the entire company into decline only would be he fired. By then it might have already been too late.

Why? In family or even family businesses we think about emotional attachments or love or respect among one another. We have a higher tolerance for incompetence because we think that’s what family is expected to do.

In sports teams, the only respect any leader gains is from performance and results. So anyone who doesn’t perform is kicked out.

4) People who don’t believe in the vision or direction of the team leave and are replaced by those who do

I’ve learned that people in teams sometimes must leave for renewal to happen. Look at Manchester United. This season they’ve brought in a different team and anyone can tell you that the past 2-3 games have showed a whole new different Manchester United than the one we were watching the last season.

That’s not really because the older players that left were weak players (Heck no… look at Welbeck or Kagawa now. They’re doing so well outside in their new clubs). But it’s because no matter how good a player is, if he doesn’t believe in the team and can’t work with the team as a team, then staying on with the team is bad for the team.

Now imagine if a company is run like a family and you can’t replace anyone.

5) Pro Sports teams strive for only one thing. 

And that is to win. Nothing else. Everyone is clear that the only objective is to do better than anyone else in your league. That if you’re an Italian restaurant then you strive to be the BEST Italian restaurant in your area. If you’re an online retailer you strive to be the best in your region.

Wouldn’t it be cool if everyone in the team knew exactly that. That their mission isn’t necessarily to work hard on their jobs. It’s actually to be the best.

I think people would love to be part of a team that wins.

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An ending word:

Till today I don’t consider myself an expert when it comes to managing teams in spite of Co-Founding a company now that has over 170 employees. I’ve made many mistakes before in the past, some of them the very mistakes I talk about above. Heck I believe that an entrepreneur’s hardest job isn’t sales, cash-flow or things like that. It’s always managing people. Finding the right people for the right job and motivating them to be align with the company’s vision. All that is a lot harder than it sounds but I’m learning along the way.

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Here’s why companies should stop trying to be like families and more like pro sports teams

Netflix is one of the most successful internet companies in the US. Not too long ago it released a 126 page slideshow on the internet about its company culture and what it stands for.

One part of it that I found interesting was in slide 23:

“We’re a team, not a family. We’re like a pro sports team, not a kid’s recreational team”.

I though this was interesting because so many companies today strive to have their employees think of the company like a family (admittedly that’s what we used to strive for at our company before although now we try to find a balance between the two). But here’s how a company that runs like a pro-sports team will function.

1) People will be in senior positions not because they’ve been there longer but because they’re capable.

Here’s the thing, in a family your elder brother or elder sister is someone you must respect not because of whatever he/she has done to earn that respect but because he/she is your elder and has been there longer than you.

In a family, bigger responsibilities are often expected to be given to the older brother/sister not necessarily because they’re the right people for the job… but because they’ve been there longer.

A professional sports team doesn’t function like that. The best people are put in the most important positions and roles based on how capable they are and not based on any given right for being at the team (or company) longer.

Everyone works as a team and must pull their weight. Anyone who doesn’t, must be dropped quickly or the team will suffer.

2) No one person in the team thinks he is bigger than the team 

Imagine a football team where all the strikers don’t work in passing the ball to each other in order to find the best opening to score a goal. Instead whenever they get a chance (even if it’s not a very clear chance) they each try for a goal on their own because they each want the glory of being the person who scores the goal.

It doesn’t matter if all the strikers are the best strikers in the world. If they play like that in a team, then the team fails because each person then is playing not for the team’s best interest but for their own.

If any one player thinks that he is bigger than the team, no matter how talented he is, he must leave the team or the team will go into a downward spiral of everyone then playing for themselves instead of the team.

3) Weak leaders are fired quickly

Manchester United is an inspiration for me in this particular point. When Sir Alex Ferguson retired, he handed over the exact same winning team to David Moyes who then messed it up for one entire season. Same team, different leader (and different coaching staff) and he failed. He was then fired.

In a family or in some family businesses, the elder brother is the leader because he’s the elder brother. No matter how incompetent he is, short of him doing something major to mess up the entire company into decline only would be he fired. By then it might have already been too late.

Why? In family or even family businesses we think about emotional attachments or love or respect among one another. We have a higher tolerance for incompetence because we think that’s what family is expected to do.

In sports teams, the only respect any leader gains is from performance and results. So anyone who doesn’t perform is kicked out.

4) People who don’t believe in the vision or direction of the team leave and are replaced by those who do

I’ve learned that people in teams sometimes must leave for renewal to happen. Look at Manchester United. This season they’ve brought in a different team and anyone can tell you that the past 2-3 games have showed a whole new different Manchester United than the one we were watching the last season.

That’s not really because the older players that left were weak players (Heck no… look at Welbeck or Kagawa now. They’re doing so well outside in their new clubs). But it’s because no matter how good a player is, if he doesn’t believe in the team and can’t work with the team as a team, then staying on with the team is bad for the team.

Now imagine if a company is run like a family and you can’t replace anyone.

5) Pro Sports teams strive for only one thing. 

And that is to win. Nothing else. Everyone is clear that the only objective is to do better than anyone else in your league. That if you’re an Italian restaurant then you strive to be the BEST Italian restaurant in your area. If you’re an online retailer you strive to be the best in your region.

Wouldn’t it be cool if everyone in the team knew exactly that. That their mission isn’t necessarily to work hard on their jobs. It’s actually to be the best.

I think people would love to be part of a team that wins.

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An ending word:

Till today I don’t consider myself an expert when it comes to managing teams in spite of Co-Founding a company now that has over 170 employees. I’ve made many mistakes before in the past, some of them the very mistakes I talk about above. Heck I believe that an entrepreneur’s hardest job isn’t sales, cash-flow or things like that. It’s always managing people. Finding the right people for the right job and motivating them to be align with the company’s vision. All that is a lot harder than it sounds but I’m learning along the way.

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The Newbie’s Guide to the Sime Darby LPGA Malaysia

We’ve all been there. At some point in our lives we would have met a golfer. Golfers are hard to ignore for the reason that most of us are very passionate about it. So passionate that when two strangers meet and they find out they both play golf, they instantly become chatty best of friends.

Or if you’re having a drink with a group of golfers, hours can go by with conversations about their different golfing adventures. How this friend started off badly but ended up with a birdie, or another with a sandy par. If you’re not a golfer, all these terms and all this excitement about a seemingly dull game confuses you.

Then comes two times in a year where all golfers in the country, especially Klang Valley start paying even more attention to golf. One of them being the Sime Darby LPGA Malaysia. This entry isn’t meant for golfers necessarily. It’s meant for the newbies who don’t know any more about golf than they do about how to build a rocket. It’s a cheat sheet on what’s going on so the next time you overhear golfer friends talk about golf or the LPGA, you can smartly chip in like a boss.

(L-R) Patricia Knudsen and Daphne Iking are ready to celebrate the 5th anniversary of Sime Darby LPGA Malaysia

Official ambassadors for this year’s tournament, Patricia K (left) and Daphne Iking posing at the greens

1) What LPGA Means

LPGA stands for the Ladies Professional Golf Association: an American organization for professional female golfers. The LPGA Tour though is an ongoing series of weekly golf tournaments for the best female golfers in the world. In other words it’s kinda like the World Cup for female golf… except that it happens every year instead of every 4 years.

2) The total prize money at the Sime Darby LPGA is USD2 million

Or RM6.4 million if you look at currency in ringgit terms. This is sometimes called a “purse”, not to be mistaken by what the ladies carry. A purse is basically the pool of money that can be won by people in the tournament.

3) The Current Top Female Golf Player in the world is coming

Her name is Stacy Lewis. She’s the current number 1 ranked female golfer in the world.

4) 6 of the Top 20 Women’s Golf players will be competing at the LPGA

Stacy Lewis (World No. 1)

Suzann Pettersen (World No. 4)

Ryu So-yeon (World No.5)

Anna Nordqvist (World No. 10)

Christie Kerr (World No. 11)

Jessica Kora (World No. 19)

5)   The Sime Darby LPGA has raised RM2 million for charity so far

Every year the Sime Darby LPGA through its charity gala dinner and some contribution from food sales at the event raises money for CARIF (Cancer Research Initiatives Foundation).

6)   It’s not just a golf tournament

For this year’s Sime Darby LPGA Malaysia at the Kuala Lumpur Golf & Country Club (KLGCC), the whole club will be transformed into a festival complete with live music, street art, a showcase of Malaysian and international cuisine, health and beauty treatments and other activities.

Performances

At the pool area of KLGCC, there will be a good mix of live music between 3-6pm each day from a variety of leading local artists and DJs such as Patricia Knudsen (Patricia K), Atilia, Bihzhu and others.

Food

If you’re more into food, there will also be a variety of hawker stalls catering to golfers and their families. All  international cuisines restaurants at KLGCC; Golfers Terrace, China Treasures, Niji, Qureshi, R&R Café and Connoisseur’s Lounge and the Sunken Bar will open its doors to the public.

7) Fashion, art and craft market.

Curated by ten of Malaysia’s female entrepreneurs, the market will showcase their success in the worlds of fashion, art and craft and will include talks and workshops. If you’re looking to be inspired by some of Malaysia’s great female entrepreneurs, here’s a good place for it.

8) Games for the family

There will be loads of games for the family by the pool area. Everything from a chipping contest to a photo-booth and chill-out zone.

9) Tickets to the Sime Darby LPGA Malaysia 2014

If you’re a member of KLGCC you might be able to get some complimentary tickets.

Tickets to the festival though are free for the ticket holders of the tournament but cost as low as RM24 per day for the public.

You can get tickets from www.ticketpro.com.my or call the Ticketpro hotline at +603 7880 7999.

If you’d like to know more you can check out the Sime Darby LPGA website here ) or their Facebook page

5 Things To Consider Before you Start a Business/Startup

A friend of mine has recently been thinking of quitting his job at a bank and starting a business. He asked me for advice both on starting a business and I gave him a few points that I thought would be interesting to share here. So if you’re thinking of becoming an entrepreneur and starting a business, here’s what you gotta keep in mind.

1) Is there a big company that would want to buy your company?

Everyone talks about exit strategies today. About how you could exit the business whether via an IPO or a trade sale to a bigger company. An IPO is a much bigger task and that’s a whole new issue for another article later on. But when it comes to trade sale, in order for you to sell your company someone else must not only see the value in buying your company, but that someone else must have the money to buy it.

So many internet startups neglect this one point and start apps or websites because it sounds like a good idea, without thinking about who would buy it. And we gotta be really honest with ourselves on whether these companies really will buy it. Have they bought companies like that in this space before?

There is a caveat to this though, and that is if you’re in a business not to exit or sell but to simply make money. Many businesses are like that. They’re not likely to get acquired because they probably draw low earnings multiples in terms of valuation but they make good money. I know many entrepreneurs with businesses like this. Whether it’s a restaurant chain or advertising agency. They don’t sell for a high price but they make good money and if that’s what you’re aiming for then great.

2) Are there much bigger companies overseas that do the same thing?

When looking at what your company is worth one important point is what are your comparables? What other companies in the same industry are trading at in terms of earnings or revenue multiples. These things help paint a picture and a story to future investors and give them a better idea on how to value your company.

For example, if you own a car classifieds website like iCar Asia does, you can go to investors in Australia and say “We’re like Carsales.com.au (which is a $2.32bn listed company in Australia trading at a 24.34 PE) but for SouthEast Asia which is a bigger market population wise.”

That helps paint a story of where your company will be drawing from a company that is already successful doing the exact same thing somewhere else. Chances are you’ll get a better valuation if your comparable is trading at a high valuation.

3) Can you find a seed investor?

One thing I used to think when I first started out is that it’s better to fund your startup yourself and gain traction first so that you can fetch a higher valuation when it does. That is true… a startup with traction fetches a much better valuation than just a business plan or an idea of doing a startup.

However what is less exciting than a business plan or an idea of a startup is a startup that has launched but is NOT gaining traction. And that is MOST startups. So it’s about risk and about how confident you are about your own startup. If you want to risk manage a little, then take in some seed funding just before you start. If your startup gains traction then good… it’s a happy problem to have. If your startup doesn’t gain traction then you’re gonna be glad you took in some money at the business plan stage.

Besides the one thing about taking in an early investor is that it’s some form of validation. That you’re not necessarily just building castles in the clouds but someone else believes in your startup and is wiling to put his money behind it.

4) Are there government grants you can get in this area?

I was surprised at the number of government grants the Malaysian government provides its businesses and I’m not just speaking about in the tech space like Cradle. I’ve seen grants from various industries. It’s a lot more work to get grants but hey if it’s out there for companies like yours, go get it.

5) Are you filling in a gap in the market or creating a market?

There are two types of businesses.

One that sees a need and fills it like logistic companies that see a need for logistics or a coffee place in an untapped suburb.

One that creates a desire and a market for itself. Like Apple did with the iPad. Nobody knew they needed an iPad until they had one.

Both type of businesses come with their pros and cons. The ones that just fill a need tend to be easier to get some form of traction because a market already exists there but chances are it’s a lot more competitive.

Those that create a market for itself tend to find it harder to get traction but when they do, they can hold a monopoly-like position at least for a while longer (like the iPad still does with the tablet market).

So if you’re trying to create a desire or a market then don’t be fearful if you don’t immediately gain traction. Go in with the right expectations.

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And these are my two cents.

Should we be pursuing ignorance instead of enlightenment?

It’s Sunday morning. I had just finished a morning ride and I’m just sitting in the living room of my family home in Penang.

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It occurred to me that it was time to blog again but I didn’t want to blog about anything too serious. Heck it’s Sunday. The day of rest for my mind so I’m gonna blog today about whatever comes to mind at this very second. I don’t know where this will lead and the title I’m gonna add to this entry will only be added at the very end of it. After seeing where my free writing has taken me.

Every time I come back to Penang I feel some level of nostalgia. Penang after all is the town I grew up in. The history of it is a little odd. My mom is from Ipoh and my dad from a small town in Johor called Kluang. How they both ended up in Penang? Well my mom’s Ipoh family had started some sort of a business in Penang so she moved to join the family business. And my dad with her.

Today both my parents call Penang home. Not Ipoh or not Kluang.

Today I too call Penang home. Looking back to the time when I was growing up in Penang I felt some level of bliss because of the ignorance that came with it. As a kid I always thought that Penang was the world. Or Penang was one of the biggest cities in the world simply because that’s all the world I knew. Yes my parents did bring me for some trips overseas but I never thought about the size or scale of the countries I visited. I was always thought they were the size of Penang. Of course I have heard of KL but I never went there much as a kid so I didn’t imagine much about it.

Our time was spent in malls that I grew too familiar with. Many of which are really old and run down today. There was KOMTAR, that we spent in our early days… and then came 1-Stop. Which was then the biggest mall in Penang at the time. I spent so much of my teenage years there because it was where all the cyber cafes were. Then came an even larger mall called Bukit Jambul Complex which was really far from where I was staying and then the malls we know today Gurney Plaza and Queensbay. All these old malls, even though they were arguably inferior to the ones in KL or Singapore…. we never felt that way perhaps because we never knew better. We never really knew what to compare it to. Yes we’ve been to some malls overseas but I’ve never really been long enough to fully experience or know it inside out to make a comparison. I was after all a kid.

Penang was the world for me because I didn’t know better. Today of course when I’ve seen more of the world I realize that while Penang is a fast growing and beautiful city, it’s far from the largest city in the world I once thought it to be.

It made me wonder… that maybe sometimes ignorance is bliss. Thinking that Penang was the world and not knowing the rest of the world where there is goodness but just as there is bad things too. People in the world who kill each other, people who cheat one another or people who do things to hurt one another motivated by jealousy or greed or… well the list goes on.

It makes me wonder… that if I had just continued living a normal life in Penang. An ignorant one… not knowing what goes on in the outside world. Not reading all the news I’m exposed to online or on TV, would I be in a happier place?

Is ignorance… then really bliss? And if we all strive to be happy in life… then shouldn’t we be pursuing ignorance in life instead of enlightenment ?

Haha I know. Really deep thoughts this morning. But I guess having a clear mind on a Sunday morning gives me these thoughts.

Why you must NEVER touch anyone’s baby without permission

Something happened to me that really pissed me off today. I vented it all on my Dayre and had lots of comments there from other parents who struggle with the same thing.

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So I decided to blog about it here as sort of a public service announcement so everyone will spread the word and tell other people WHAT NOT TO DO when you see another person’s cute baby in a mall or restaurant.

This is the story from my Dayre.

Here’s what happened. I was having lunch at this restaurant with @fourfeetnine@fightertiah and @wilson.

When we arrived the waiter asked if we needed a baby chair. I said yes please then took a seat.

I was sitting down with Fighter standing on my lap facing me. We were playing around and I was enjoying the moment when suddenly from the corner of my eyes I saw a set of hands coming through towards Fighter.

I looked up to see the waiter extending his hands out to carry Fighter.

I was like WTF but I didn’t know how to react. On one hand I wanted to tell him off and say “wtf do you think you’re doing ? I don’t know you. Hands off my son!”.

But I was torn. He didn’t mean any harm I’m sure (unlike assholes who try to cut line who obviously do), he just wanted to play with Fighter.

So I tried to stop him nicely by saying “Fighter doesn’t like other people to carry him” but he ignored it and went ahead.

The truth is Fighter is a friendly baby.

“He happily lets almost anyone carry him. ”

So he took Fighter in his arms and played with him for a while. Then sat Fighter down in his baby seat.

I was pissed. But I didn’t show it because I was torn. On one hand I’m like WTF! I mean if the waiter wanted to see my phone that I placed on the table, he wouldn’t have touched it without my permission right ?

So why would you go ahead and carry or touch my baby without asking me ?!?

ARRGGHHHH I WRITE ALSO ANGRY. IM TAPPING SO FUKIN HARD ON MY SCREEN ITS GONNA CRACK!

Plus I don’t know him. I don’t know if his hands were clean or he was having a cold that could pass on to Fighter.

On the other hand … Again. He probably meant no harm.

So I don’t know. The next time somebody touches my baby should I just say “HANDS OFF THE BABY ASSHOLE!!” And risk being perceived as rude myself…. Or just suffer in silence like I did this time round

So that’s my experience.

Other parents left comments and shared their own stories and there were lots of other stories. But the one which took the cake was THIS ONE.

I totally feel you @timothytiah…it happened to me once when I was out having a meal. But it was a lady from another table that came to carry my girl. Like how friendly Fighter is, my girl happily lift up her arms. AND THAT LADY BROUGHT MY GIRL BACK TO HER TABLE TMD. I was too shocked and caught off guard to even speak but I immediately followed her and took back my girl wtf. She never even asked if she could, she never even looked at me and fucking just carried my girl away. First and last time, ever. 

 

I mean seriously… WTF?!!?!?!?

So if you’re somone who touches (or worse carry or kiss) random kids in public, let me just say please stop doing it. Why?

1) It’s MANNERS

If I was holding a phone and you, someone I didn’t know wanted to see it… would you just grab it from my hand and have your way? No right? Because it’s just bad manners.Then why would you do the same thing on someone else’s baby?

2) We don’t know where your hands have been!

It’s not because your hands are necessarily dirty all the time. But here’s the thing. Parents of young babies are paranoid of whatever germs, viruses or bacteria that can be passed on to our kids. Yes… sometimes we’re so paranoid it’s almost unjustifiable but bear with us. They’re kids.

3) Babies get sick easier than you think and a sick baby is torture not just for the baby but for the parents too

I once had just ONE person who had a flu carry Fighter for a while. She didn’t declare that she was sick. A few days later Fighter caught the same flu virus and a nightmare followed. Fighter kept crying because he wasn’t feeling well… and he couldn’t sleep so he cried even more. We had to constantly check him many times a day for a fever and we would even wake up in the middle of the night to check on him to make sure his temperature wasn’t too high. It was a stressful, sleepless few days for us.

Fighter suffered and so did my wife and I. So please… that 5 minutes of holding a baby while you’re sick, is days of suffering for the baby and his/her parents.

If you want to read many more horror stories from parents, you can check out the comments on my Dayre.

Please share or tell everyone you know to stop doing this!

When you feel like life is coming down on you, here’s what you must remember

This is another article in my series of letters to Fighter.

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Dear Fighter,

I am amused by your habits. How over the seemingly smallest thing to us adults (like taking away a remote control from you) makes you cry like we had just inflicted the most possible pain ever. I was amused because when these things happen, we adults think it’s a small reason to cry. So much that we often think it’s an overreaction.

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Then one day somebody made me see things in another way. That the baby you are hasn’t known any other pain or stress in life. So to us taking away a remote control or not carrying you when you want us to… is trivial. But to you because you know no other pain, it is the worst thing that can ever happen to you.

I understand that now but I have to tell you the truth about the world we live in. The world we live in is an oxymoron. In the course of history you’ll see people do the most cruel things to one another from the Cambodian Genocide to ISIS in present day as I write this letter. Not only has these things happened in the past but they continue to happen today and will continue to in the future as they have throughout history.

In the more civilised societies that we live in, fortunately outright violence is stopped. But here cruelty exists too in a different form. In people shunning another person because he was born different or people betraying one another. It’s a cruel world we live in and it’s the world you will be living in.

The good news is that if you look beyond all this, you’ll see goodness in this world too. For every ISIS there are aid workers who volunteer to go on to the ground to help the people who need help. For every person who shuns or treat someone badly, there is always someone else who will pick up that person and treat him right. Just like in Dumbo.

So this world we live in is an oxymoron. There is good and there too is bad. We will all at one point go through difficult times, sometimes so difficult we think we are at our limits and when you do I want you to remember these 3 things.

1) When bad things happen, they all happen at the same time.

That means you’ll have to deal with an overwhelming wave of bad things at the same time. But it also means that once you get through it, all the good things will come altogether too.

2) That time heals.

Whatever problems, challenges, stress or adversity you will be put through, in time you will overcome them. Just like how you stop crying just 15 seconds after I take away that remote from you.

3) Surround yourself with good people.

The best people you want to spend your life with are the people that you want to spend not just the good times but also the bad times with. They’re the people who will stand shoulder to shoulder with you in times of adversity.

So you see Fighter, it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to cry now as a baby and it’s okay to cry as an adult because life is difficult. Life can be cruel sometimes. What is not okay is for you to give up. For you to pity yourself or for you to think that you won’t be able to overcome this.

Tonight I will take your remote control away from you again so that you’ll always be reminded of the life we all live. A life where we can’t always control what happens to us… and a life where we don’t always get what we want. My hope is that I will be able to teach you to flourish even in a life like that

Love,
Daddy

Fighter and his love for ice-cream

If there’s one thing we just discovered, it’s that Fighter LOVES ice-cream. LOVES. The first time we gave him ice-cream was when he was seated in his car seat in the car. I was having an ice-cream and he put out his hand to to signal that he wanted some.

I turned to Shorty and asked if she thought it was okay and she nodded. So I let him have a taste. He opened his mouth as wide as he could and bit some off with his gums. Then he started smacking his lips for a while and he paused.Right that moment I could see it in his eyes. His life has changed forever.

He immediately insisted for more and so I gave him a bit more until it was completely finished. There was nothing left but the ice-cream stick. He then kicked up a fuss as if still not understanding that many things in life are finite. There is such a thing as “finished”. Still.. in spite of us trying to explain it all to him, he kept crying.

Every time we had ice-cream from that day on he would insist on some. Just last night Shorty bought herself some ice-cream and when Fighter saw it, he insisted on having some himself. We took a video of it here.

What we thought was funny was that this was the first time he would actually shiver after swallowing each bite.

Shorty says that Fighter got his love for ice-cream from me (yes I love ice-cream) but I’d like to think that all kids love ice-cream right?

Exploring more of your city

I’ve lived in 3 cities throughout the 30 years of my life. Born in Penang, I went to university in London and now live in Kuala Lumpur. So I understand what living in a new city is like. At first it’s met with a little bit of fear of the uncertain but excitement from the adventure of exploring it. Then you start exploring more and more of the city you live in and develop a certain routine. Before we know it, we slip into our comfort zones and we stop. We stop exploring.

There’s a saying that “If you tire of London, you tire of Life”. I believe in that saying not just for London but for any major city in the world. There is just so much more we have yet to experience in any city that we stay in… but sometimes we just need a little nudge. A little push out of our comfort zones to go explore once again.

Heineken gave me that nudge just recently. I love Heineken and I work with Heineken regularly which says a lot considering how I’m really picky about which brand I associate myself with. I love Heineken not just because of its beer. I love what the brand stands for: “ Going beyond boundaries”.

One of their recent initiatives is Heineken Cities where they encourage everyone to go explore the hidden gems in our own cities. In KL, they booked out this huge area where they created rooms of a select few hidden gems around KL and recreated the experience of each place in those rooms.

There was Bespoke @ 1 Utama, A gentleman’s tailor in KL where you could go, pick whatever cloth you wanted and custom make a suit. Every suit is handmade stitch by stitch.

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Replacement @ Bangsar; the next generation hair dresser.

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Unlike the usual hairdressers, in this saloon you have no mirror in front of you. Your faith and trust is put in the guy doing your hair. The only mirror you have is up on the ceiling where you can look once the haircut is done.

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And of course there is Paradox Café, where they have salsa nights full of energy and people dancing around.

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I ended up spending most of my night in the recreated Paradox Café. Watching everyone dance while sipping on my beer.

Along with these crazy people.

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Shorty though was particularly amused by this art exhibit. A futuristically dressed woman in a glass booth, dancing.

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It was amazing. It’s like being able to go to all these places all at once without really needing to. All I had to do was walk through another door and it felt like I was teleported over there.

In line with their theme to explore more of their cities Heineken now has these limited edition bottles with the names of some of the most metropolitan cities on them.

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More importantly, if you want to step outside of your boundaries and explore more of your city to find new places to visit or eat or even get your hair cut, Heineken helps you out here on http://openyourcity.heineken.com and also on Twitter.

You can tweet your location to @wherenext, and it’ll recommend 5 hot spots around you that you can explore.

At the end of the night, I brought home this bottle.

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KL after all… is now my city.

10 Things Malaysia is The Best or Biggest In

Tomorrow the 16th of September is Malaysia day. To commemorate this day, I started doing some research for things that we as Malaysians can be proud of. Sure there are things we aren’t great in.. like having one of the worst taxis in the world. But for every bad there has to be some good and this is what I wanted to find.

When people ask what we’re proud of in Malaysia we often say our food or culture but I didn’t want to add that into this list. Why? Because it’s too subjective. The list I wanted to build was a list of things that we are best or biggest in… and that is a FACT. Saying we have the best food in the world can be argued by someone else if that someone thinks the food in Japan or somewhere else is better.

To make this list, my one criteria had to be that it was supported either by a survey/study/article or numbers. So you can confidently tell people… Malaysia has the best <insert fact here>… and you can’t argue against a fact. I have linked all the backings to each fact there to the relative articles.

Here is what Malaysia is the best or the biggest at.

1) The World’s Best Women’s Squash Player

Datuk Nicole David has been for years the number one women’s squash player in the world.

2) The World’s Best Badminton Player

Datuk Lee Chong Wei too is currently the number 1 Men’s Badminton Player in the world.

3) Best Luxury Shoe Brand in the World

Okay this one is a little more arguable. But in this lost of the Top 10 Luxury Brands in the world, Jimmy Choo comes out on top.

4) Largest airline in SouthEast Asia

Air Asia is the Largest Airline in SouthEast Asia carrying 42.6 million passengers last year.

5) Tallest Building in SouthEast Asia

The Petronas Twin Towers is no longer the tallest building in Asia but is still the tallest building in SouthEast Asia at 452m tall.

6) Best Places to retire

Malaysia is listed as one of the Best Places to Retire in the world.

7) Largest Cave Chamber in the world

The Largest Underground Chamber in the world is in Sarawak.

8) Largest Flower in the world

The largest flower in the world, Rafflesia is in Sabah, Malaysia.

9) One of the best dive sites in the world

Malaysia is home to one of the best dive sites in the world in Sipadan.

10) 6 of the 8 Largest Internet Companies in SouthEast Asia are based in Malaysia

6 of the 8 Largest Internet Companies in SouthEast Asia are headquartered in Malaysia.

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So the next time you want a reason to be proud of the country we live in, look at this list.

Happy Malaysia Day Everyone!