A few days ago I read this article on TRS. It’s about a Singaporean woman and what she wants or expects in a guy. Now personally I kinda think that’s more like a prank because it’s really too extreme to be true but it highlights the underlying impression society has on the modern woman and their wants.
That’s the question we men often ask ourselves, what do women want?
I think what women want is a question that has various answers. Women are no different than men in this manner. What we want depends on who we are. We want different things. The thing about wants is that not only is it varied depending on the individual, it’s also infinite. We want an infinite number of things… so even if you know what women want, you’ll never be able to fully satisfy it all.
What I focus on then is: What do women need?
Security, love, physiological needs and more. It’s not a short list… but it’s not as varied as what women want. Unlike wants though, needs can be fulfilled. It is finite and most of it is obvious. There is one need though that I think isn’t as obvious and has only been made known to be recently and that’s what I’ll talk about here.
Our women (whether it”s our girlfriends or wives) need to be almost worshiped by their other halves not just at home but to people outside of home too. They want to know that their husbands or boyfriends feel proud of them. Proud because they’re beautiful, they’re smart, they’re talented, they have a kind heart… anything that she wants to be known or acknowledged for. They don’t have to know or think that you think they’re the most beautiful women in the world… they just have to know that all in all… they are the woman that you most want to be with in the world.
Why do I think this?
Because someone pointed it out to me. In the past some people have said that they envy Shorty because she has me (and I’m sure an equal or more number of guys envy me cuz I have Shorty)…. and it’s not because I do a lot of things for Shorty, or take good care of her or provide her with the security she needs… it’s because I make it known that I’m proud of my Shorty in many instances.
Proud that she’s beautiful, proud that she’s the funniest girl I know, proud that she managed to fight adversity last year and give us Fighter, proud that she tries very hard for our relationship, proud that she constantly tries to take better care of me and many many more. I don’t just express that on my blog on Twitter but even to all my friends and she knows that. It’s like I almost worship her (I say almost because worship in its entirety is a word I save for God).
Women need that. They don’t necessarily need you to think that they’re the most beautiful woman in the world or anything like that, but they just need to know that you acknowledge and are proud of them for their beauty, or determination or talents or whatever reason. Something that we forget to acknowledge or remember as relationships drag on for longer periods.
That is what I think women need. It’s a need that isn’t too hard to fulfill. It just needs us to reflect and realize why we’re with the women we’re with.
And yes… to me… I know a lot of beautiful women, a lot of smart women, a lot of funny women too… but all in all the one woman I really want to be with in the world is my Shorty. Miss Fourfeetnine.
Timothy Tiah – Co-Founder of Colony, Kuala Lumpur Co-Working Space