Exactly one year ago, Shorty and I got married after being in relationship for four years.
To celebrate our 1st wedding anniversary I got special permission from the Doctor to bring Shorty out of the hospital just for a couple of hours. I had made plans for dinner and a small surprise. Just half an hour before we were supposed to go out though, Shorty did a blood pressure test and the results came back unfavorable. So the doctor decided that Shorty should stay in the hospital. I canceled all our plans except for a bouquet of her favorite flowers I bought her.
I thought that since last year at our Registration of Marriage I gave her bouquet of flowers, that it was only fitting that she had another one now on our first anniversary. I then bought some sandwiches and we had a simple meal by her bedside. It was a simple celebration but we had fun.
We both thought back of the beautiful wedding we had last year. Our wedding took place over the weekend. The 27th July was our Registration of Marriage and the 28th was our tea ceremony and wedding dinner.
This is a video of our Registration of Marriage.
And this our tea ceremony and wedding dinner.
I started thinking this morning about how I felt before I got married. Lots of people used to tell me how the fun stops when you get married and that getting married is good for the girl but never for the guy. That the guy loses his freedom and his own space. Or even… how do you know if you got the right person? Yes getting married was one of the biggest decisions of my life, but one of the best pieces of advice was given by a business partner of mine from the Philippines.
I asked him
“How do you know this is really the right one?”
He paused for a minute… and then he said
“Well… sometimes you may never really know if someone is right for you. But you’ll always know if someone is wrong.”
One year of being married to Shorty, all I can say is that being with Shorty makes me happy. I don’t know if this means she’s right or she’s wrong but hey… who cares. I’m happy and isn’t that what a relationship is about? It’s not about romance, not about money, not about finding the perfect person… it’s just about finding someone that makes you happy for the rest of your life.
So even though the past few days have been difficult for us… and even as I write this blog entry seated on an arm chair next to a hospital bed that Shorty is resting on… I am happy. I am happy not just because Shorty is getting the best medical care and that Fighter is still healthy, but I am happy because I’m with Shorty and Shorty makes me happy.
Happy Anniversary Shorty! Here’s to holding your hand through the best and the worst adventures we’ll have in our lives.
Timothy Tiah – Co-Founder of Colony, Kuala Lumpur Co-Working Space