I was talking to one of my friends a week ago.
He is in the midst of chasing the girl of his dreams and doing all sorts of really sweet things for her and he was extremely nice, did everything for her… would even drive to her home and pick up her mobile phone and drop it off at her office when she forgot to bring it to work one day.
That’s from SS2 all the way to the Petronas Twin Towers ok?
One day out of the blue I told him
“Hey I know it’s hard when you’re so into the girl, but careful to not be too nice to her ok? She might take you for granted”.
The genius went back to tell the girl that “Timothy Tiah said that I should not be too nice to you but you see I am still nice to you” (the sausageless sonofabitch used my name to score brownie points with this girl he’s chasing).
Someone needs to get him one of these.
No wait.. he doesn’t deserve such a long one.
Get him one of these short ones.
The girl then rang me up and gave me a damn scolding and she’s not talking to me ever again. FARKING HELL DUDE.. YOU DON’T SELL OUT A BROTHER LIKE THAT!
I didn’t mean to mess things up for her but I have learned albeit the easy way that nice guys DO finish last.
Take for example a friend of mine named Charlie.
Charlie comes from a really really wealthy background. The wealth he inherited made sure that he and his children will never need to work a day in his life. To add to that, Charlie is an extremely humble and nice guy.
He drives a damn Mercedes SL55 all around KL and pretty much lives the life of a socialite.
He doesn’t work much, though he does say he’s involved in some ‘side business’. Anyway, Charlie has everything going for him… except the love life part.
Maybe his physical looks affect that and I don’t know how to say this but to be as polite as possible I’m going to say that he ain’t exactly Dr. McDreamy.
He’s also really really nice to girls. Nice as in he would do anything for them.
Spend all his time and money on any of them that would give him enough attention.
Problem is that because he’s so nice, pretty girls hang out with him all the time and while he doesn’t always admit it, more often that not, he’s with them because he wants to be more than friends.
And when I say more than friends, I mean like this.
Now it has been pretty unfair for Charlie.
Every time he brings a new pretty girl out with his friends… the girl, whoever she is sooner or later falls for one of his friends and gets attached. When the girl gets attached, she disappears and Charlie is left to find another girl.
There was one girl that Charlie really liked that really took him for a ride.
Let’s call her Vivian.
I met Vivian for the first time about 6 months ago at DELIcious in Bangsar Village.
It was a joke!
When I saw them in the distance walking towards me, Charlie was walking in front, carrying a hell load of shopping bags like this
and a few steps behind him was Vivian walking slowly as if the world was watching.
Naturally the first thing I said to Charlie was
“WAH!! WHAT THE HELL YOU BUY?!? SO MANY THINGS!”
And his reply to me was
“No lah.. not mine.. I bought for Vivian”.
So there was Charlie, carrying more bags than his two hands could carry and Vivian just strolling around not even lifting anything but her LV bag.
After dinner I had a chat with Charlie on MSN. I said “DUDE…. Why are you acting like the girl’s butler? I know you like her but seriously… you ain’t gonna get to do anything more than carry her bags if you act like you ain’t got no balls strapped on”.
Charlie didn’t say much. He just went “okay… okay”.
3 months after that (or 3 months ago), I learned that Vivian found someone else leaving Charlie alone. Charlie had not only been bringing her shopping, driving her around KL in his sports car like a chauffer but even taking her to all the expensive restaurants to eat expensive stuff like abalone
but in the end, he got nothing out of it. Yes nothing… no hug, no kiss, no holding hands, no handjob, no…. nothing.
This revelation made me think of another friend I have who is quite a player. Lets call him Jake.
One day I was hanging out with him at his place, doing nothing but talking cock like guys sometimes do. Suddenly his phone rang. He picked it up, looked at the number and showed it to me while shaking his phone from left to write with his thumb and his index finger.
Jake said,
“Eh Tim… check this out… hot chick hot chick!”
On the screen was the name
“Cheryl”.
I smiled at him but my smile disappeared in the next 3 seconds when he threw his phone back on the table and said
“I’m BUSY”.
She called another two times that night, but he ignored the call eventhough he had nothing better to do.
He said he’ll call her back the next morning. And he told me.
“You must never be always available for the girl”.
Of course this applies only when you’re chasing a girl. If you have a girlfriend… please treat her nice. You should be done with all the games by then.
Today Charlie admits that there’s a downside for being too nice with the women he hung out with and he’s trying to change.
Good luck Charlie!
And to the sausageless brother who sold me out… I hope you she buys you a ball and chain for Christmas because you really ought to have one.
Timothy Tiah – Co-Founder of Colony, Kuala Lumpur Co-Working Space