Okay so I was looking through all the questions I was getting for the 20 Questions entry I was about to do when I saw this reader of mine write this e-mail to me.
hey TT.. 🙂
so my question is, is it wrong for a guy who is in a relationship to watch porno? i feel unappreciated and degraded by the fact that, eventhough a guy who has a gf, the guy will still watch porn when the gf is not around. 
Is this normal? do i need to be angry? and when i question him, he doesnt wanna talk about it… he’ll get annoyed and say that its normal for all guys.. is this true? I’m hoping that u can answer my question… thanks so much for your time !!”
I felt compelled to answer her first!!!
So here goes.
Dear XXX (I’m gonna not disclose her name here),
I’m not going to answer your question and try to help you understand this. Instead I’m going to tell you how you can go about getting your way as to make your bf stay so far away from porn you’re gonna think he’s a priest.
You know the saying that goes that if you tell people NOT to do something, they’ll do it even more? Well that in my opinion has some truth in it.
Back when I was still in school, there used to be grass patches with signs that said “DO NOT WALK ON GRASS”, those signs really made me want to walk on the grass even more.
Now I actually applied this theory to a co-worker of mine.
When he first joined Nuffnang, he was a chain-smoker. He had been smoking for many many years so nothing was gonna stop him now. Everyone in the team wanted him to stop, and tried to help by discouraging him in all sorts of ways but it didn’t work.
One day I decided to try the reverse.
Instead of telling him to stop smoking, I kept asking him to go take a cigarette break and get some ‘oxygen’ into his lungs. When my other colleagues nagged him to stop smoking I defended him and said
“HEY!!! Don’t nag! He hates cigarettes!!! That’s why he smokes them… to help destroy them”.
Then Christmas came.
Christmas was a nice time for us at Nuffnang. The whole team got together for a big dinner at San Francisco Steakhouse.
Before the dinner we all had a little Secret Santa kind of thing so we each had to buy presents for each other (with a maximum limit of RM50 each).
I was supposed to buy for this particular colleague of mine so I bought him an ashtray and a packet of high-end cigarettes to encourage him to smoke more.
I think that was the last straw.
Barely a week after I had given him the ashtray and cigarettes for his Christmas present, he announced that he was quitting smoking. Cold turkey style!
So you see? When you want something, sometimes you gotta do things the other way round.
Now apply this to your bf who likes to watch porn.
Now whether it’s normal or not, and why he does it… is not important!!
Because like I said, this entry is about how to get him to stop.
So what you gotta do, is overload him with porn so much that he never ever wants to see a porn video again in his life.
Once a day e-mail him a “Nude Hottie of the Day”.
Every night ask him
“EH JOM.. LETS WATCH PORN!!!”
Even when he’s done watching porn you should urge him
“Watch some more lah!!! just a bit more!!!”
And if his birthday is nearing, buy him a 1-Terabyte (1,000 GB) Hard Disk and fill it up with porn. 
Then wrap it up and give it to him with a label that says
“My Lucah Stuff”.
Keep at this mood for a few months and I guarantee you that at the end of it, your bf will stop watching porn.
Problem solved right?
You can thank me later 😛
PS: The co-worker I was talking about has stopped smoking for 3 months now… and he’s still going strong! :P… am I right dude? You’re not fagging behind my back are you?
Timothy Tiah – Co-Founder of Colony, Kuala Lumpur Co-Working Space